STOP THE INSANITY

According to Albert Einstein, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.

I often wonder, did it really have to take an “old school” genius to tell us if we continued to do the same thing over and over again, we would not get a different result? I mean, after the third or fourth try, I would like to think the average Joe would change something up. What do you think?

How does a person get caught up doing the same thing over and over and over AGAIN? With years of personal experience under my belt, I think we tend to blame everything and everyone around us before we blame ourselves. Ouch! I knowwww.

I am a creature of habit. I like to keep a schedule and do things in a particular way. Nothing wrong with that, right? Well, what I have learned over time, in order to see something significantly different in my life, I have to do something significantly different in my life. If I want to be more productive, happier and meaningful to others, I have to be willing to do something outside of my comfort zone.

Let me share this, at the beginning of the year, I finally got to a point in my life where I was comfortable. Life was moving along and things were settling down. My routine was tight and everything around me was becoming normal. Well, if you know me, I am not one to sit comfortably, be normal and watch the paint dry on the wall. I was not happy and there was no one to blame but myself. I wanted good things to happen. I wanted life to happen. Going to work and coming home and doing it all over again the next day was killing me. I had to make a change and AT LEAST make it work no matter what my circumstances are.

Guess what, it started with ONE sticky note that I posted on my front door. All it said was “Do ONE thing this week that scares you.” That one crumbly-sticky note got me to do more than one thing, I did all of the following and it worked! It’s still working.

  1. SELF-EVALUATION. I started with me. Part of doing the same thing and getting the same result was because I was the same person. No matter what I was doing in life, I kept attracting the same people, falling into the same situations and feeling the same way at the end of the day. Common denominator? Me! I swallowed my pride and started to break my life, who I was and start to build who I wanted to be.

  2. CANCEL THE ROUTINE. Instead of going to work and coming home 5 days a week, I started to find things to do before, during and after a long work day. Instead of working through lunch, I would go on a lunch adventure, meet up with friends after work or take a nice long bike ride along the coast.

  3. VOLUNTEER AND GET SOCIAL. I wanted to meet new people who were a little nuts like me when it came to sports and running, so I decided to volunteer at different sporting events. It became great way for me to build a brand new network of friends.

  4. CLEAN UP. Creating a different result takes more than switching up a schedule. Cleaning up toxins in your life is a game changer. Toxins can be mental set backs, unhealthy people or things that compromise your health. Seeking professional help or a support group to help get rid of toxins is a great way to get started.

  5. FIND A PARTNER. I found someone who also needed to move forward and make things happen in their life. Our goals are slightly different but we both want to move forward. That’s all the motivation we both needed, so now we are accountability partners. Each week we send a “to do” list to each other. Sometimes it is 3 things and other times it’s like 15! But it pushed us to get things done and become “do-ers” and not “wishers”. We are making things HAPPEN!

Getting a different result can be as easy as changing ONE THING in your life. Once you see the effect of ONE THING, you will find yourself looking for the second thing to change and then the third and so on and so on! It’s exciting to see good things happen to YOU and if you get stuck along the way (and you will get stuck), make sure you have the right people in your life who will continue to push you forward and in the right direction.

Posted on September 12, 2019 and filed under Health, Wellness, Happiness, Life.

Focus on the Good Foot

The Foot That is Up!

Loss. Disappointment. Frustration. We have all experienced each of these in some way or another. If we are smart we allow these feelings to be short-lived and we move on. But what about that one thing that eats at us. It may be something on the job, a person in our lives or a difficult family situation. That’s when the real test begins and there are lessons to be learned.

There is a story Deepak Chopra shares about his experience as a monk in Thailand back in 2011. Chopra shaved his head, ditched the shoes and lived as a monk for 30 days. He meditated from 12 midnight to 4am in the morning. The part of his story that intrigued me was about his feet. After about a week, the head monk asked Chopra how he felt and he told him that his feet hurt! Chopra never had to walk through the streets and forest without shoes or socks. The monk asked him how does your feet feel when one is lifted off the ground? Of course, Chopra said it felt good but when it’s on the ground, it hurt. The monk told him to focus on the foot that is lifted. #mindblown

This story really hit home for me because, like everyone else, I have a lot of good things happening in my life but there are a handful of things that tend to feel like that bare foot on the ground, in the forest! It’s called being human. Did you know that focusing on negative thoughts is an old survival tactic? Yep, back in the day when we were fighting off lions, tigers and bears we were in constant “worry and protect” mode.

Now that the world has evolved, we tend to worry about our jobs, families, friends and our health. Negative thoughts is the number one cause of depression and fuels our anxiety. We need to focus on the foot that up and not the one on the ground.

I fight with negative thoughts daily but if there is one thing I have learned over the years for every bad thought that jumps in my head, I have the control to replace it with 2 or 3 positive thoughts. I can control my thoughts. For every foot that’s down, there is a foot that is up. With every step, you are closer to something better. So, focus on the foot that’s up. For every bad foot, there’s a good foot.

DEEPAK CHOPRA | LifeHacks

GOAL SETTING

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Goal setting only works if you work.

Knowing what needs to be done is different from what actually gets done.

This year, I did something a little different. Not only did I write my goals down, I keep track of them DAILY. What’s so different about that? In previous attempts, I wrote down my goals, pinned them to the wall and tried to remind myself I have goals to accomplish (that stopped working for me). After a while, I would forget the paper was even there, I stopped paying attention to what I wanted and I suddenly saw a squirrel run across the room, YESSSS, I LOST FOCUS!

Now? Today?

I write down goals daily. Yes, I did write down my overall goals but this time, I really broke it down by years, months, weeks and days. By breaking it all down, it’s easier to see each tree in the forest. It’s a process and I want to enjoy every step of the process, good and “lessons learned”. I am getting things done, whether I want to do it or not.

#GOALS

Another thing I did differently this year, I found a group through MEETUP who hosted a group of working professionals to encourage and guide us on how to put their vision boards and goals together. It was fun, productive and a great way to start the new year with new/amazing people.

I know we are moving into February and the focus will be love and relationships, but don’t lose site of all the goal setting that took place in January. Make sure you keep a list of what you want, write it down, check your calendar daily and hang out with people who will hold you accountable in the healthiest way possible.

Remember, it’s never too late to do the right thing!

GOAL MAPPING | PASSION PLANNER | VISION BOARD

Love Yourself. Set Boundaries. Do Not Apologize.

What a day and what a month! I am not sure what is happening to me but I like it. I am finding my voice, setting boundaries and feeling pretty damn good about it.

There comes a time when you get t i r e d of all the BS people keep feeding you. Especially when you work hard, try to do the right thing and respect those who are around you.

Today I was presented with something that did not sit well with me. I had to push back and I have to admit, it felt pretty good. I was reminded of how many times I had to stand up for myself this past year. Month after month, challenge after challenge, it was becoming a daily occurrence and I was getting exhausted, but that’s how life works. Right? Challenges tend to make you stronger in order to handle greater things.

It’s funny how little things remind you that everything is going to be ok. This morning, I put on my favorite arm straps mainly for aesthetics. What I didn’t notice is how I stacked them. The top strap was my name and the bottom strap has the words “STAY STRONG”. It was like the universe was talking to me… “NICOL STAY STRONG”.

Look, whoever reads this, I want to share a few thoughts and hopefully help someone stay strong and keep pushing through.

  • Remember, L O V E who you are (right now),

  • Set boundaries (today)

  • Do NOT apologize (ever) for who you are.

Life is too short and challenging. Enjoy where you are now, so you can enjoy where you are going. It’s your life and only your life. Stay strong and make the best of it.

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Posted on December 22, 2018 and filed under Health, Life, Wellness, Moms.

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BREAST CANCER EXAM #SELFCARE

It is Breast Cancer Awareness month!

This monster of a machine can save your life. I felt something under my left armpit/breast from a self-examination a month ago and scheduled an appointment right away. It was scary and a little painful but worth the trip (painful because I have small ta-ta’s and it takes several attempts to squeeze those peas onto the machine). I am happy to say all is good but there are thousands of women who wait too long. Never be afraid to take care of yourself and start living the life that’s intended for you. Self breast exam are important! Visit your doctor and get your breast examined by a professional ESPECIALLY if you THINK you might feel something no matter what age you are. Be strong and take care of your health. 🎀

Posted on October 1, 2018 and filed under Wellness, Moms, Life, Health.