It's that moment when you decide that enough is enough and SOMETHING has got to give!
January continues to be the month when people have either started their New Year's Resolutions or they are still contemplating on setting new goals for themselves. For some, it hasn't been an easy process while for others taking that leap of faith has become exciting!
My change started to occur late last year. I was tired of looking through very narrow glasses and I wanted to start seeing the entire picture again. When I was younger, I could paint a better situation in my head all day long and then go after it. Now that I am older, I tend to miss a few strokes and criticize my efforts in trying to do anything.
For me, enough was enough. I wanted to be happy no matter where I was in my life. . .and not just "smile for the camera" happy but truly happy DEEP within. I wanted my girls to see that being strong also meant being vulnerable, open to change and owning (/learning from) your own mistakes. It hasn't been easy to embrace but I have to tell you. . .it's been LIBERATING!
This same philosophy goes hand in hand when it comes to getting in better shape or running a faster time in your next race. You have to let go of all the junk that tends to come with wanting to accomplish a goal (negative thinking, doubt and even unmotivating people in your life) and stay focused on what you want. "To change, you must leave behind some of what you have today".
For many of us, true change is stepping out of your comfort zone and doing something different. What you need to know is, "doing something different for a change will help define who you are and show you what you can do". It also makes you ask yourself, is this change and setting new goals worth it? I would tell you YES. . .if is going to make your life better. Here are a few steps to consider when setting your next goal.
- Make a clear vision of what you will gain from changing. Clearly understand the benefits that you will receive once you start pushing towards your new goal.
- If you are not satisfied with the situation you are in, make sure you are ready to move forward and not step back.
- What steps are you going to take to accomplish your goals? Are they clearly defined and are they achievable. Set yourself up for success, even if it's baby steps.
Losing weight, if you want to drop down to 3 jean sizes, what will that do for you? You have to force yourself to understand what you goal is in this. If you can not answer this question, you are not 100% ready for change and will step back when they opportunity presents itself.
I want to run a 1/2 marathon or my first 5K. Do you understand that this will take 8-12 weeks of training to successfully run either race? Are you ready to commit yourself to weekly runs and exercises to accomplish this goal?
The only person that can help you accomplish your goals is YOURSELF. If others are telling you to change, that could be a good thing or a bad thing! If YOU are not ready, don't set yourself up for failure. You have to see what needs to be changed, own it and then set yourself up for success. No one else can do that for you. You can be guided but it's YOUR efforts that will take you to your Promise Land.