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Change is Happening and It's not easy for me

The Season of Change and Thanksgiving

Amazing east coast trees from Virginia. . .

Amazing east coast trees from Virginia. . .

There is a lot of change going on in my house. So much so, I can't figure out if I am happy or really, really sad about it. Even though I skip around town sharing positivity and happiness through physical fitness...I am still very much human. I tend to have a very hard time with change in my own life. 

I have always been weird when it comes to change, I like the idea of it, the excitement of it but I h a t e going through it. My oldest daughter, for example, will be going to college next fall. She has committed to UPenn and even though I am extremely happy for her, I think I have already started the grieving process. I mean, it was like yesterday she was 4 years old, wearing her little yellow, floral dress and big white baby shoes. Now she is preparing to head off to college, on the other side of the nation? Wait...W H A T?!? and now I have to be supportive and OK with that? AHHHH! . . .I know, "cut the cord already!" but I actually like my kids. LOL!

from Humans of RBHS

from Humans of RBHS

Along with change comes stress. If you don't know this already, we cause our own stress. We internalize a situation and make it about us when it's not always about us. We get headaches, stomach aches and the only way to feel better is to possibly EAT the stress away or not eat at all. Which one are you? 

During the months of September, October and November change happens every where. The weather changes, our kids change, partners and relationships change, sometimes jobs and even our way of life changes at a drop of a hat. But it's not the "change" that's important, it's about how we handle change that will effect not only us but everything around us. If you are having a hard time like myself, take the focus off of yourself and put your feet in someone else's shoes. How can you help them? What can you do to not make the situation about you but how you can make the situation better? How can you be giving and thankful going through change? Do you have a stress release that is healthy and helpful within your environment? Ask yourself these questions, write them down and start to take on one solution at a time.  You can do it...I know you can!

Fitness is not always about the body, it's about what you are putting your body through when going through a positive or negative change. Get your mind right, stay positive and always look on the bright side before heading to the dark side. Do I always look at the bright side first? Absolutely NOT but I know how to stop myself, pray, meditate, BREATHE in positive vibes, slow down and start over again. You have that power...use it, accept change and remember..."Change is needed to grow and if you don't grow, you are not living.". Continue to live and see what life will bring you next. 

Thank you, Gail Sheehy for this very helpful and inspiring quote.

"Soleful" Sunday

Heading out of Philadelphia this morning and back to family in Virginia. I already caught a little cold but got my PHILI run in yesterday morning and a great strength training workout this morning. The picture that I am sharing is the historic Franklin Field at UPenn. I ran the "older-surfaced" track nearly 25 years ago. The team didn't do great but we had so much fun and had the time of our lives. Great things are sometimes wasted on youth but if you are smart those great things can be awesome tools for future lessons.

"No matter how things get, continue to live your life, stay positive and keep pushing forward."

Motivational Monday

I've Fallen and I WILL Get Up!

The quiet before the storm...

The quiet before the storm...

The turn was there, I didn't react fast enough...the back of my bike lost control and all I could scream and say was "no no no no noooo!" BAM! I collided into an incoming triathlete, literally slid across the barriers and once I got up, brushed it off and tried not to cry...I had a front flat tire. 

Yesterday I participated in the amazing Mission Bay Triathlon...particularly the Duathlon. I was easily seeded in third place, had a decent 1st mile run and then headed out on the bike. I had hoped to ride a little faster but lacked the training before this event. I made it around the bay and was heading out back to the streets. I was so in the zone, I saw the turn but didn't react fast enough and slid right into another biker. It was embarrassing, it hurt like hell and once I got up, I realized I had a front wheel flat tire. "ARE YOU KIDDING ME?". 

At that point, I didn't know what to do. I was embarrassed, felt bad for the other competitor and I was physically bruised and scratched up. Having typed that, I didn't want to walk back...I had 4 miles to go, I did NOT want to ruin my front rim and two women who should not be ahead of me just past me. Not to be cocky, I know my abilities. I was pissed with myself BUT I got back on my bike and decided to head back slowly. At this point, I wasn't sure I had a chance. I figured I had to go slow to prevent messing up my bike. Once I realized where I was and how to keep pressure off the front rim, I started to speed up and find a decent pace.

Yes, I found my pace. Next thing you know, I am back in transition to prepare for my last 3 mile run. I headed out and noticed that one of the ladies who passed me earlier was only about 150 to 200 meters in front of me. I figured I will keep her in my site and build up my speed step by step. She finally broke down after a mile & half I was able to pass her. After passing her, I took off in fear that she would find her second wind. As I look up I see the 3 mile mark. Thank GOODNESS!!!...but low and behold I see another ponytail wailing in the wind. Oh my GOODNESS!!! I couldn't believe it but I realized I could catch her too!  Tricky part, I only had 1 mile to do it. I maintained my speed and my adrenaline definitely kicked in. I could see her body break down after each step. With 1/2 mile to go, I went for it and past her. At that moment, I felt so powerful and strong...sore but strong. She wasn't too happy by her choice of words as I past her but I did it.

MOTIVATION: Life will knock you down when you least expect it. Whether you have an idea it will happen or it takes you completely by can happen. But what will you do when it happens? Will you shake it off? What will you do when you stand up and realize... you are hurt, your resources are damaged and your pride has been tested? Will you fight or give up? I encourage you to stand up and fight. Find a way to use what you have and make the best of it. You may piss some people off when your hard work exceeds others but it's not about's about how much you and how much you want a better life for yourself...a better place than coming in last. Keep going...never give up and don't let small things...even big things slow you matter how much it hurts.

Motivation Friday

I have seen it time and time again. People trying to get in shape to be someone they are not. It pains me to see it and to watch it unfold because at the end of the day, you are still you and the other person is who they are. With society feeding our heads with what is perfect and what is not, I understand why people feel the way they feel about themselves. Only if they could see themselves through someone else's eyes, it would make all the difference in the world.

I love watching people set goals that are realistic and smart. Taking each step at a time and understanding where they are right now, how they got there and how they will pull themselves out. This goes for life too. I am not perfect by any means. Marriage, relationships and motherhood are extremely challenging. I have not always been that person to set realistic goals for myself. I tend to get caught up in the "dream of things" only to fall flat on my face and having to start all over...a g a i n. 

Don't make that mistake. Understand who you are, where you are RIGHT NOW and map out a plan to get to the next level. When it comes to your physical fitness, if you are a couch potato, don't go out and run a marathon tomorrow to break yourself in. Take one step at a time, stretch, plan and execute with help from those who truly have your back.

When it comes to your body, feed it WELL and with good food. Don't abuse it with drugs, alcohol and bad food. This is the only body you have and in order to enjoy life, you need to be healthy, alert and strong. So, up those green vegetables, fruits, carbs, proteins and drink lots of water.

Last but definitely not least, take care of your spirit. Whether you are a believer or not, believe in yourself, take time to focus on you. Clear your mind of all the craziness in life for about 10 minutes a day. Breathe in and out, be at peace, pray, think of all the positive things in your life and start each day on a positive note. Love yourself first, so you can easily love others.

Remember, Fitness for the mind, body or soul is not about being someone else, it's about being better than you use to be. Happy Friday!


Spiritual Fitness

Working on your Spiritual Fitness should be a daily routine. Whether you are a believer or not, having a good spirit is crucial to having good health and a good mindset.

Spirit is defined as the force within a person that is believed to give the body life, energy and power. The inner quality of nature of a person or defined as "a person"

What gives you life, energy and power? I believe that the blessings I receive every day, even when I do not realize I am receiving them, are what give me life, energy and power. The things that I am thankful for give me life, energy and power. The things that make me wake up and push through another moment in my life, whether bad or good...that's what give me life, energy and power.

It's Soulful Sunday and if you believe in having a good spirit, close your eyes and think of ten things, five things or even one thing that gives you life, energy and power. Thank God for the ten, five or even one thing that feeds your spirit. Ask God to help you maintain this life, energy and power and show you the way to give back to others who may need it.

Never stop feeding your spirit and never stop being "thankful" that you can feed your spirit and give back to others. List your energy sources, keep the good ones, eliminate the bad ones and push forward in "good spirit"  -Happy Soulful Sunday!


Posted on May 31, 2015 and filed under Health, Fitness, Exercise, Spirit, Spirituality.