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Raising Female Student-Athletes

First of all, raising a kid is a challenge. From being an infant to the terrible 2s AND 3s (!), elementary school to hormonal teenagers! Yep, parenting is a challenge but SO WORTH IT. B U T when you add in athletics and extra curricular activities, life gets really busy really FAST! My girls started their athletic careers in ballet and tap classes once a week (oh, the good old days), now it's soccer, soccer and SOCCER and lots of running and track strategies to discuss.

Remember when you were a kid and you could try out for your favorite sport at the local high school? Everything was right there, with very little travel unless you won the conference title. Now, there is a club for every sport imaginable and clubs require dedication, time and money. 

For me, raising young female student-athletes was a requirement. If they wanted to do theatre or music, no problem, but in the meantime I wanted a sport to keep them physically challenged. 

All American 800m/Ivy-League Champion | Regional Soccer Champion/National Runner-up Surf Soccer

All American 800m/Ivy-League Champion | Regional Soccer Champion/National Runner-up Surf Soccer

Even though there's a 1 in 3600 chance of becoming a "professional" female athlete (in basketball alone), the benefits of being a female athlete are awesome.


  1. Find a sport that your daughter loves to participate in. When your female athlete loves her sport, she will perform better, learn new techniques faster and will constantly search for ways to improve.
  2. Be supportive. This is always a hard one for parents (even myself at times). Whether your girl wins or loses, she has to know you still support her. As a parent, we will do anything to protect our girls but when they under-perform, parents can display disappointment quickly. Let it go and love them anyway.
  3. Wins are AWESOME, loses are learning opportunities. My girls LOVE to win and HATE to lose. That's normal. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, I have them write down what went right and what can they do different next time. It holds them accountable and helps shape what they want out of the sport.
  4. Allow rest, recovery and "girl-hood". When your girl finally gets a break, LET HER TAKE IT or in my case, MAKE HER TAKE IT. Between school, sports, peer-pressure and takes a toll on our girls. When they get a day off, let them sleep in, hang out with their girlfriends and do things they love to do. This will prevent burn-out, injuries and melt downs.
  5. Stick to the plan, schedule and goals. This goes back to being supportive. This is also where a lot of sacrifice happens with both parents and the student-athlete. Your student-athlete should have a clear plan, schedule and goal they want to reach. It's up to the parents and the student-athlete to stick to all three and if something doesn't benefit them, then do not allow "whatever it is" in their life. 

Remember, being a student-athlete is hard but extremely beneficial. Student-athletes learn time management, a solid work ethics, team work, physical endurance and responsibility. These are all great aspects they will carry with them in their future, real-life settings. 

Happy Mama Moment


Yep, that's my oldest, baby girl running the 800 meter dash at the Bronco Invitationals this past year. Nia is one of the top runners in the San Diego county and now the state. This past weekend, I had a #happymama moment when she ran the 800 meter dash and broke the Palomar League record! It's one thing to know your kid is trying to do great things but to see it is another.

I attend 98.9% of all of her track meets and record her races. I mainly record the races for my dad & mom, as well as, our entire Missouri family. My dad ran track, I ran track and now Nia, who hated running club track at 7 years old, is now running and doing amazing things! This past Saturday was the Palomar League Track and Field Finals and Nia was ready to run. My husband and I were both able to attend because there was no soccer this weekend and we didn't have to split our time...NEVER HAPPENS! We also had NO IDEA Nia was going for the Palomar League record of 30 years until it was announced she broke it and we read her article in the Pomerado News. WHAT?!?

We were both shocked, happy and amazed! Nia is a completely different kid at home but when she is on the track...WHOOOO? WHAAAT?!! She has also dealt with a series of injuries all season long and missed almost half of her meets this season. So, we were very unsure of this year's outcome on the track. 

I hope my readers don't mind this bragging post but I am proud of my girl...both my girls...their work ethic is solid and the desire to be at their best is amazing. My husband and I question our parenting skills every every hour (through text messages, emails and phone calls)! I'm not going to say we have it down but I THINK we are moving in the right direction. We have a LONG way to go but by putting God first and giving them the love they's working. So, we will keep moving forward with that plan and pray for the best!

Great job this weekend, Nia and GOOD LUCK going into CIF prelims this weekend!

Rancho Bernardo Track Team as a whole did a great job, had fantastic finishes and will be exciting to watch in the next two weeks! GO BRONCOS!